Big Week!

This week has been: tiring, scary, exciting, encouraging, , wonderful, etc. etc. etc.

Wednesday we got a call from the pregnancy counselor. She told us that the birth mom we met that wanted more time to think and consider her decision wanted to match with us. She said that she definitely wants to place for adoption and she loved us. What? Did that just happen? Yes. It did.

Recap: We had that wonderful match meeting 10 days prior and thought this was our dream come true, happily ever after with a birth family. Then we waited and waited and waited. Then we got news that she was struggling with the decision to place for adoption. Then we found out she does want to place for adoption with us. Yay!

After getting that news we were in disbelief. We were also very guarded. We already felt hurt by the situation because we want this so badly. It took a lot of processing and talking about it with each other. Cameron and I spent time reading the Bible together and trying to wrap our heads around it. For us to match with this birth family means that we have to be vulnerable again, which felt scary since we knew the decision has been hard on them.


Before I go any further I'd like you to consider how huge this decision is for this family. They are deciding to choose another set of parents to raise their child. Of course that is hard for them and they have every right to struggle through that. They even have every right to decide to parent her when she comes into this world. That would, of course, be devastating for us but it's the truth and we're being honest here. 

Moving on with the story... we decided to match and move forward with this family. Then they invited me to a girls day out with the family so they can get to know me better. Cam wasn't allowed to get his toes painted with us!

I spent the day with birth mom, birth grandma & great grandma, & birth mom's little sisters (so I guess aunts, but they are really young.) We went and got pedicures. Then we went and ate a huge lunch and dessert at Applebee's. Then we went for coffee at Starbucks. When we headed out to get coffee I called Cam and he met up with us. We also got to meet birth grandpa for coffee too. (We didn't meet birth dad since he was at home with the two little ones while birth mom got to have a girls day out.) The whole day's events took about 6 hours. It was an amazing day.

We talked about what things will look like when baby girl is here. I heard countless stories about the baby's big brothers and sister and what they were like as infants. I heard family back grounds and things that are important to them. I learned about what birth mom's other pregnancies have been like. We chatted about traveling, church, movies, football (that was more Cam than me), walking/exercising, and anything else that came up. Today was a good day. We love that we are getting to know these people that will be where our child has come from and that she'll grow up knowing them too. There are so many people to love this baby. There's so much I could say about today, but this is long. If you're still reading- thank you for hanging in there.

Today was a great day.

So, friends, get ready. We are expecting our baby girl in a few short weeks. She is due September 13th, but will more likely come a few weeks early since this has been the trend with the other two little ones.